"We are born in relationship, we are wounded in relationship, and we can be healed in relationship."
(Harville Hendrix)
Healthy Attachment
We rely on our partners for comfort and support. This is healthy attachment, and it helps us be stronger and bolder in the world. It means we need our partner to be accessible, responsive, and engaged. The relationship dance is positive, and the partners are in sync with each other.
Relationship Distress
When the secure emotional connection is lost, a negative cycle develops. Partners coping with a loss of connection often respond with anger, criticism, distancing, silence, or relationship distractions. The bonds of trust and security are frayed, and the partners fall into the negative dance.
Changing the Dance
In our work together, we will identify and map out the cycle, then help each partner identify and articulate their needs from a more vulnerable place. This promotes greater compassion and empathy from the other, creates a more secure connection, and a more loving relationship dance.